What it’s like to be a Foodie!

Written by Fatima Fizza

Edited by Pragya Shrivastava

The importance of cooking was made clear to me in that one month which I had spent in a single room of an Army mess. I had never really considered cooking as an important act in my life. My mother cooked and when she was tired or needed help our trusted manservant of long would pitch in and his food, although not exceptionally good was passably bearable. On weekends, holidays and trips abroad we ate out, Mediterranean, seafood from around the world and pizza were the staple favorites of the family (it wasn’t easy to agree on a single restaurant since we were a large family).

Even while travelling we mostly stayed in furnished apartments to allow for the occasional ‘roti and salan’ craving to be easily fulfilled. My mother, may God keep that excellent woman in great health always made it seem so easy. Then I got married and moved in with my in-laws. My mother in law was a keen cook too and despite being a working lady her kitchen ran smoothly and staple homemade food kept my stomach satisfied.

Although there was a difference in taste and variety, my inner cook still lay sleeping and setting foot inside the kitchen was not something I did much often except for the occasional baking. Cakes and Pizza I can bake since I was in grade school and except for a few special dinners and an occasional soup I was not tempted to be in the kitchen.

Then there came that one month when I was stuck in a single room and even though the mess waiters lined up daily to receive orders for any menu on this side of the Kabul River, whatever they presented each evening tasted oddly alike and of nothing I could put my finger on. So, it was this oxygen food (tasteless and odorless) that made me start wishing for a place of my own which must include a kitchen. The moment my husband and I shifted into our first new house, I focused on setting up the kitchen first (which is one place in the house where a woman who cooks spends a good part of her life).

IMG_2369With the expert help of my mother I did go about this task and started this wonderful journey of self-discovery which is cooking. Cooking is the other side of the coin which spells Foodie!


I am the average woman, trying to run a house, bring up well behaved children and balance relationships all the while trying to make something of my life. Unlucky to have been born with absolutely no idea what I wanted to do with my life, I have been lucky to have life throw me a pretty amazing mix of everything and I have been learning on the job. I am an avid lover of nature, i love to read and write and occasionally paint. I’m blogging to share my personal experiences in case they prove to be of help to other thirty somethings and if not then be a source of amusement and humour. So do forgive me for my excesses in advance and comment to share your own take on my musings.

Blissful Marriage (9)

This post is a collection of fatwas on random topics which have literally opened my eyes. You will  notice how different the culture and religion are when you will go through them.

I just cannot say this enough: if you are a guy, plz plz read them all. You just do not know how much you can change your life as per Islamic terms just by applying these in your life.

Age of marriage

Dowry

Minimum amount of Mahr

Jahez

Gifts other than Mahr

Rights of spouse’s parents

Not living with parents, Wife asking for separate accomodation

Wife’s parents not wanting her to live with her husband’s parents

Wife visiting her parents

Serving husband’s parents

Obeying husband’s mother

Divorce

Ruling on divorcing in jest

Wife asking divorce from non-religious husband or due to husband’s addiction

Acceptable reasons for Khula

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Hmmm…

Oh dear! 

This is scary…lol. Now thinking back to the time when I used to make a post literally every day, I cant believe that I am actually nervous writing this post!

Anyway, things are good with me Alhamdulillah. I know I have been away for really really long and I should be giving an update. 

Well, many of my regular readers (or who used to be my regular readers) and the ones who are on my fb list already know that I have a little boss now….she has just turned 11 months (ta-da!) which means she is getting a lil more active everyday Masha Allah and is more than enough to keep me on my toes all day long. Apart from being my boss, she is a great teacher: she is teaching me to be patient and polite and kind and well, the list is way too long.

Other than that, well, just the usual! I am hoping to post every now and then from now onwards. Wish me luck 🙂