Sanam (review) Episode 2-3

Ok, what did i just watch!? I still can’t believe I sat through two episodes of Sanam back to back. And now I have a headache!

Anyway, from the very beginning they are trying very hard to show that Aila is over all a very negative person who has made Harib’s life hell on earth….paving way for Harib’s extra marital affair. It would have been better if they had perhaps shown Aila and Harib to be either engaged or perhaps even if they were shown to have an arranged marriage. It just doesn’t make much sense to me that he didn’t find anything unusual about Aila’s behavior for two whole years. Also, it would have been nice to know how and why they both fell in love coz for now that’s something which I can’t see at all. And please someone tell Harim to change her stylist, she looks awful. BTW, where was her family all along? And she could have possibly worn something better the first time she visited her mom after she got married.

And what’s up with this sheroz? He is supposed to be Harib’s best friend but every time he meets Aila, he does/says something which only leads to trouble. The icing on cake: Harib is such a weird guy…he tells sheroz about every single conversation that he has with Aila. I’ve never seen a guy doing that!

So anyway, in both episodes, Aila has become an even worse person than she was in the first. She is very shakki and she has assumed Harib and Aan are having an affair (omg, why does it remind me of ‘shukk’?). She hits her husband (couldn’t stop laughing at Harib’s reaction) and then she goes off to Aan’s place to confront him. Haaye bechara Harib tou abhi tak bathroom main hi Betha tha!

Amidst all this, Aila has been diagnosed with bi polar disorder without any tests. Haaye double bechara Harib. Kismet hi phoot gayi.

Khair any way, no one except for Hina bayat is acting well. Maya Ali’s facial expressions are reminding me of mannu and Osman Khalid butt is still in wali mode. Harim Farooq is trying a bit too hard but it’s falling flat. I’m actually quite concerned about the future of this mega cash churning serial.

Did you watch the last two episodes of Sanam?

Sanam Episode 1

Written by Mona Haseeb

Director Haseeb Hasan

Producer Momina Duraid

With the end of recent disaster named Mann Mayal I wasn’t too sure if I was ready for Sanam. When Sanam was announced initially, Diyar e Dil had recently ended and the hang over had not subsided. I got really excited as it had a dream team and our favorite agha Jani (abid Ali) was supposed to be a part of the project too. By the time Sanam started, my excitement had all but died due to the disastrous Mann Mayal.

The main characters are being played by Osman Khalid Button (Harib), Maya Ali (Aan) and Hareem Farooq (Aila). In the first episode, Aila and Harib got married. Apparently, it’s a love marriage. Aila and Harib worked together in office and perhaps Aila was his subordinate. Harib is a self made man who has worked very hard after his parents’ death to be where he is. He is shown to be someone who has complete control over every aspect of his life. He chose to get married to Aila after much consideration. All this ‘consideration’ and ‘thought’ went down the drain when Aila got a panic attack/temper outbreak just a few hours after their marriage. Now, this was a little shocking for me to digest because when people get married for love, they usually know each other well. I’m quite confused because how could Harib not know the problems with Aila’s personality even though it seems the whole office knew about it.

Khair, the very next day after their wedding Harib receives a call from his office that he needs to get to office for an urgent meeting. Harib tries to wake up Aila but when she refuses to wake up, he goes without leaving any message or having breakfast. Hai bechara Harib. While he is in office Aila calls and starts getting angry for going to office without informing him. Double hai bechara Harib coz it’s completely normal for men to leave early in the morning day after their wedding and that too without informing their wives.

So yea, now it seems Harib is our mazloom, bechara husband who made a wrong decision and married the wrong girl. She is bipolar, is shakki and also does not make breakfast for her husband.  Now that is the ultimate! How dare she!!?? All wives must cook for their husbands otherwise their husbands have a license to have an extra marital affair.

Meanwhile in their mohalla a new family has moved recently. It’s Aan and her mum (Hina bayat). They have moved from a lower middle class family and the mum wants to fit in quickly coz she wants to find a nice rishta for Aan. As of now, the loud mum is my favorite character and I’m glad Hina bayat is playing the role. Anyway,  Aan is a simple girl who doesn’t want to pretend to fit in the new mohalla. She is very comfortable in the old furniture and the chador on her head.

Day after Harib’s wedding when he is going to office without having breakfast, he bumps into Aan who is also going to office without breakfast. Now Harib is looking like a ghareeb, bhooka, miskeen so Aan shares an Anda paratha roll (her mum packed two for her just in case she finds a bhooka guy who might be potentially damaad material). This scene perhaps laid the foundation for Aan and Harib’s friendship which will later become a lot more.

Tou khair, I didn’t find the first episode too impressive but it wasn’t too bad either. In the coming episodes I would surely want to know what exactly happened in Aila’s childhood which has made her the way she is.

Did you watch the first episode of Sanam?

Why, oh why? [Women and prayer obligation, Pakistani perspective]

You might like to read this first.
While women are expected to not enter the masjid at all, even if it is to enhance her knowldge of Islam, in Pakistan, most families would expect the women to carry the heavy burden of praying for the whole family. Now what the hell is that supposed to mean? I mean, people actually expect women to keep the man’s honour safeguarded between her legs, serve the in-laws, do the household chores like japanese robots and also pray on everyone else’s behalf too? And, dont think I am talking about uneducated people. I am talking about very sensible looking educated seeminly religious people….or the moderates as we would like to call them.

I will leave the rest of the issues but I will surely want to talk about women being expected to pray on the behalf of men in the family. I seriously didnt have much first hand experience of this till I got pregnant when everyone, literally everyone, started telling me things to read for a healthy baby. Someone told me that I should recite a particular name of Allah everyday a specific number of times every day to ensure safety of the foetus. She told me this several times, not just once. So i thought of looking up in various books and see how it has to be done. Interestingly, it was something that a man is supposed to do every morning after fajr prayer once his wife is pregnant. When I told this to the ‘mashwara khanum’, she just said, “men dont have to do wat women can take care of.” Wow, thats interesting.

Then obviously, there were people constantly telling me to pray for my husband’s health and financial gains. Not that I dont do that myself, I do and I will even if no one tells me to do it….I wonder why no one has ever told my husband to pray for my health and well being. And by that I am not even saying that my husband doesnt want to see me healthy. Obviously, he wants me to be healthy because having a healthy wife at home can give men peace of mind. But where does it say that women are ‘expected’ to pray more regularly? I always thought that gender does not play a role in front of Allah